Today, the family all meet together again for 2 occasions. First, as we have started yearly now, pulling names for Christmas since our families our growing. And second, I figured since everyone would be here, to surprise my daughter with a birthday cake. We actually lit up the grill and had fun all around. As the kids ran in and out the doors of the house, it hit me! Like a bolt of lightning. This year, we didn't have Teresa here to fuss at the kids for doing that (running in and out the doors). I feel like that was one of my sisters biggest pet peeves. Teresa could be in middle of a sentence, but she kept her eyes on who went in and out the doors too many times. She couldn't stand it! Oh, and don't let the kids get to rough playing or jumping around too much. Teresa would clap those hands together a few times and say, "you beta sit down before I whoop you, cause my nerves cant take it". She was always the stern one with the kids. And the kids knew that she wasn't playing with them either. They'd not only stopped whatever they were doing to get corrected by her, but they certainly knew NOT to even think of trying it again.
That leads me to the other reason we meet up today too. To pull names for Christmas. For the past 3- 4 years we started this. Usually we would put both adults and kids in the hat. But, this year, we only put the kids. To me, it wouldn't be the same without her name in there. Because even before the name pulling started, I always got Teresa a gift. This year, is just gonna make it official. She wont be there. Yes, they say the first holidays are the worst. It certainly will be. But, I do believe that forever we will be reminded of her, it will just get easier for us as we learn to cope with the reality. The reality? Its only been 4 months. That word (reality) is the last thing on my mind right now.
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